My partner has been doing this for fifteen years and I have known about it for two. She has been careful and kind and has not pushed once, and the strange result is that I have no idea what I want, because nothing has ever been asked of me. She is on the platform where everybody knows her. I am on nothing at all, which is why I am here rather than there.
Thirty four, in the belt, and my entire experience is second hand. I have read what she reads, met a few of her friends, and had a great many long conversations at the kitchen table.
What I am trying to work out is whether I want any of this for myself, or whether I am interested because she is. Those are genuinely different things and I have watched at least one couple we know come apart from never separating them.
So I would like to talk to people who arrived at this the same way round, especially anybody who concluded it was not for them and said so.
Not looking for a dynamic today. Not looking for anybody who wants to be the one who unlocks me, a phrase I have now heard twice and disliked on both occasions. And not looking to do anything without her knowing, because she reads this board as well and she read this advert before I posted it.