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Connections · London · Still working it out

None of what I want is about sex, and no platform has a box

Posted as none_of_it_is_about_sex on 7 September 2026

Wantssomebody who can tell me whether there is a place for this
ExperienceNone. A long time knowing what I respond to and no idea what it is called.
Aroundthe east, London

What I respond to is being given a task by somebody whose opinion matters to me, and then being told afterwards whether it was done well. There is nothing sexual in that for me, there never has been, and every platform I have looked at sorts people by a list of activities that assumes the opposite. I am fifty one and I have no idea whether the thing I want has a place on any of them.

East London. No practical experience at all. A great deal of reading, mostly on the community side, where I found perhaps four people describing something like this, all of whom sounded faintly apologetic about it.

The reason I am writing here rather than making a profile somewhere is that a profile makes you tick boxes and there is no box for this. An advert lets me describe it in a paragraph and lets people decide for themselves whether they recognise it.

So: is there a version of this that is structure, standards and being answerable to somebody, without the rest of it? If there is, I would like to talk to whoever is doing it.

Not looking for anybody who thinks this is a phase before the real thing. Not looking to be gently corrected about what I supposedly really want. And not looking for anything at all in a hurry.

Where a post like this belongs

Nothing here has to be decided first. The mistake is starting on the most kink-native platform you can find, where an undecided profile has the least to hold on to.

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