New York
Every model works at once, and everyone is running three of them.
Open the New York boardConnections
Kink personals, city by city
18 posts across 21 cities. The rest of this site works out which app model fits you. These boards show what people in each city actually write once they have chosen one, and what the local mix of platforms does to who answers.
United States
Los Angeles
Matchers win here, and the freeway decides who actually turns up.
Open the Los Angeles boardMiami
General apps, two languages, and a pool that is here on a clock.
Open the Miami boardHouston
Privacy picks the platform, and it is not the swiping one.
Open the Houston boardDallas
The written ad is not a dead model here, and it still works.
Open the Dallas boardUnited Kingdom
London
Reputation follows you between apps, for better and for worse.
Open the London boardManchester
Big enough for a matcher, small enough that it recycles.
Open the Manchester boardLiverpool
A matcher runs dry in two evenings. The community does not.
Open the Liverpool boardBirmingham
An enormous population, most of it hiding on mainstream apps.
Open the Birmingham boardGlasgow
Written ads beat dealt cards, and nobody dresses anything up.
Open the Glasgow boardGermany
Berlin
Community-first by default, with the terms up on the first screen.
Open the Berlin boardHamburg
The same model as Berlin, running at half the speed.
Open the Hamburg boardSpain
Madrid
Easy to match, hard to schedule, and shut for August.
Open the Madrid boardFrance
Paris
Read first, met later, and nowhere obvious to go.
Open the Paris boardLyon
Changing app changes nothing. The faces are the same faces.
Open the Lyon boardNetherlands
Amsterdam
No distance left to negotiate, so housing becomes the question.
Open the Amsterdam boardBrazil
São Paulo
General apps to start, group chat to continue, zones to decide.
Open the São Paulo boardRio de Janeiro
Arranged through people far more than through platforms.
Open the Rio de Janeiro boardCanada
Toronto
Matchers fill up in November; the community holds all year.
Open the Toronto boardAustralia
Sydney
The matcher gets used most and misleads most.
Open the Sydney boardRussia
Moscow
Vouched for, or ignored.
Open the Moscow boardFour kinds of post
The same four labels the apps make you pick from, with the fourth one that most of them refuse to offer.
Doms Leading, and saying what that means in practice rather than in adjectives.
Subs Submitting, with the terms set out before anyone opens a conversation.
Switches Both directions, looking for somebody who can follow the change without needing it explained twice.
Still working it out Somewhere in the middle of deciding, and honest enough to write that down instead of guessing at a label.
Board first, or app first?
A board tells you how people in a city write and what they want. It does not tell you where to go looking. If that part is still open, the app finder settles it in six questions, and these four pages settle it with an argument.
- The model-first method in one read
- The split that explains the whole category
- The ranked shortlist for a first platform
- If your first question is who can see you
Reading here. Answering elsewhere.
You picked the app; the board shows what people write once they have. Putting a post of your own in front of people near you, and answering theirs, happens on the platform this site connects to.
Post yours for real