My wife and I opened this up five years ago and by pure accident ended up on completely different sorts of platform. She likes the fast one, which suits her, because she decides about people in a minute and is almost always right. I am on a written board, because I need a month and three long messages. In five years we have never appeared in front of each other, which was not planning and has been a considerable mercy.
Forty four, the Jersey side, switch, nineteen years married, two children who are grown and know as much as they need to.
What I want is something ongoing rather than an occasional evening. I lead most of the time and I hand things over with somebody I trust completely, which has happened twice and both times mattered. Whoever this is would have to be comfortable with a defined place in my life rather than a secret one, and with a ceiling that is not going to move.
Not looking for anybody who wants to be persuaded my marriage is unhappy, because it is not and the conversation is dull. Not looking for anything at short notice, given the river. And not looking for somebody who wants to meet my wife, which is a fair thing to want and is simply not how we do this.