On the enormous general app, the word I use for myself is read as a service somebody is attempting to buy. I had that conversation several hundred times and then stopped having it by leaving. There is nothing for sale here, there never was, and the fact that I have to open with that sentence at all is entirely a product of which platform people learned the vocabulary on.
Thirty three, east, dominant, eight years in. On the specialist side the misunderstanding almost never happens, and the trade is a pool a fraction of the size in which everybody has already met everybody, which has its own problems.
What I run is domestic rather than theatrical. Standing rules that operate on ordinary weekdays, tasks, correction that is verbal, and a rhythm that survives a bad week at work without collapsing. I am not interested in performing authority for an audience and I have no wish to be anybody's fantasy of a woman in charge.
I would like a submissive man who has done some reading and rather more thinking, ideally not in his first month, although I will make exceptions for people who are honest about it.
Not interested in anyone whose opening line is a list of what they want done to them. Not interested in anybody who cannot tell me one true thing about himself in a first message. And if your idea of this came from a mainstream app's idea of it, we are going to disagree about nearly everything.